Wow, he nearly brought me to tears last weekend. I thought I had seen all the best man “tricks” by now, but what this young man did affected me deeply.
He was a tall, thin, athletic looking guy, didn’t speak much to me during the lining up, etc. He seemed shy, and had a lovely presence.
The moment came for me to ask him for the rings. What happens most often here is that the BM checks all his pockets, pretends he can’t find the rings and grins. Then he recovers them (heroic in that moment), and hands them over.
Well, this time was different. I said: “May I have the rings please?” And this happened.
He put both hands up behind his neck — I thought maybe he had them tucked into his collar. Then he pulled out a silver chain from inside his shirt, released the little lock, and took the bride’s and grooms rings from the chain while keeping one of his own on it. And he gently kissed that ring before replacing the chain.
“Good man!” I said: “Wonderful!” Then as I did my usual blessing over the rings, I noted: “These rings have already been blessed by being next to your friend’s, your best man’s, heart!!”
And we proceeded with the rest of the wedding.
This was a Muslim/Catholic wedding — I’m being asked to do these more frequently now, I think because the story of my M/C ceremony from 2011 has gotten around to couples looking for this. And the sweet relationship of this couple with each other and with their friends and family was lovely to behold. Another first — they embraced each of the members of their wedding party before all walking down the aisle together!
Once again, I was reminded how very much I love this work!