Most of the couples who contact me about a Buddhist ceremony are interfaith – one of them is not Buddhist. So as their wedding officiant, I work with them to create a script that reflects their relationship more than one particular religion.
There are many beautiful Buddhist readings and prayers – and we have occasionally incorporated a moment of two of meditation as well.
These Buddhist weddings tend to be very thoughtful and mellow – a lovely experience for the couple and all of their guests.
A Buddhist Reading
Nothing happens without a cause. The union of this man and woman has not come about accidentally but is the foreordained result of many past lives. This tie can therefore not be broken or dissolved.
In the future, happy occasions will come as surely as the morning. Difficult times will come as surely as night. When things go joyously, meditate according to the Buddhist tradition. When things go badly, meditate.
Meditation in the manner of the Compassionate Buddha will guide your life.
To say the words love and compassion is easy. But to accept that love and compassion are built upon patience and perseverance is not easy.
Your marriage will be firm and lasting if you remember this.
I Bow Deeply
by Thich Nhat Hanh
Standing quietly by the fence,
you smile your wondrous smile,
I am speechless,
and my senses are filled
By the sounds of your beautiful song,
Beginningless and endless.
I bow deeply to you.
Buddhist Wedding Prayer
by Lama Thubten Yeshe
Today we promise to dedicate ourselves completely to each other, with body, speech, and mind.
In this life, in every situation, in wealth or poverty, in health or sickness, in happiness or difficulty, we will work to help each other perfectly.
The purpose of our relationship will be to attain enlightenment by perfecting our kindness and compassion toward all sentient beings.