Interesting question. You can send a deposit if you wish — but I don’t require it. Here’s what happened over the years.
When I started out 20 years ago, I charged a $100 deposit, the contract even said that it was “non-refundable”. That’s what I was advised to do by people in the wedding biz.
Since then, there have been a few times when a couple had to cancel close to their wedding – and I always refunded their deposit, even if they didn’t ask. That’s because I love what I do – and my commitment isn’t just financial. They might need their $$ back, and were probably hurting because they had to cancel this oh-so-important event. I don’t ever want to profit from something like that.
So I decided to simplify the contract, and not ask for a deposit. I know that other businesses, like florists, DJ’s, venues, caterers or planners have different arrangements — their upfront commitments make deposits necessary for them.
But my fee is a small part of your wedding ceremony, so I like to keep it as simple as possible.
Again, you can pay the entire amount in advance if you prefer, or send a deposit – this is the history of why I don’t ask for one.